The most optimal way to prioritize is first and foremost to label what you want yourself, and then express it clearly and distinctly. It will make it significantly easier for your partner to give you what you want. At the same time, you will seem more confident and thus have greater chances of having your wishes fulfilled.
It is NOT selfishness to EXPRESS its desires. Of course, it is not certain that you will get all your wishes fulfilled, but it is important that you express yourself in a clear, distinct and appropriate way. Maybe you want a chocolate ice cream, or you want sex, or you want to go on holiday to a certain country. You have to feel for, and tell what you want.
By the way, how does it feel not to know what your partner wants and wants and that you have to constantly guess?
Next, prioritize your partner. We all love to be at the center – not least in the eyes of our partners. That we are given higher priority by the partner than work, children, siblings, parents, hobbies, sports and so on is important for all people.
How does it feel to be ignored and degraded by your partner ?
Only then come jobs and children, and after that everything else.
There is a whole clear justification for this order, which I will end in this article.
To get married is to become partners, to love to make love, to feel like loved, to feel wanted, to feel understood and to feel valuable. What else should a person want for her or his life? What else does the person want to attain for his own self? How does the person want to be respected, loved and appreciated?
Let us not forget the meaning of marriage as a covenant. Marriage will not always make a couple feel loved. It is part of the human experience that love will not always be given freely. It will not always be a wonderful feeling that feels like it is always on sale. The covenant with the other person is always an ongoing and ongoing process. It does not always work out perfectly, but it makes us feel valued and respected.
It is often the other way around, to make an individual feel worthless.
Do not treat your partner with love that can be taken with resentment.
Do not make your partner feel useless when he or she has done nothing to deserve it. Do not get frustrated, hurt and resentful because he or she is unable to give you what you want and when you expected to get.
Do not make your partner feel like a child, or a stupid fool for trying.
Do not treat your partner with hate when he or she is living the life you wanted him or her to live.
Do not make him or her feel like a failure when he or she is trying to live it the way you want him or her to.
Do not abuse the spouse in your life; let him or her live the life you would want to live it. Let him or her grow and mature, and deal with his or her own issues. Let him or her be happy in his or her own way, and not make him or her feel ashamed for being you.
This way lies the freedom. Let your partner be happy and satisfied in the way he or she chooses. Live the way you would want to live it, and let him or her be happy in his or her own way. No partner is responsible for the way he or she feels. Your relationship is your responsibility. Your spouse is not responsible for your feelings.
I am not asking you to ignore your partner’s feelings. Just don’t ignore the responsibility.
This way lies the security. Don’t show out your security in the way you act or behave. Don’t give the appearance of a weak, needy person who cannot handle challenges or problems. Don’t put your faith in your luck and your randomness (tillidsbrud i parforhold). Do not cast blame on the other party.
This way lies the joy. Live the way you would want to live it, and let the other person be happy in his or her own way. Let him or her have his or her own way of achieving the goals and dreams he or she has. Be happy in his or her own way, and let him or her be happy in his or her own way.
This way lies the love. Give the appearance of being completely committed to the relationship, and your partner will see this as your true commitment. Let him or her know that he or she is the most important person in your life. Be completely committed to the relationship.