You put much effort, time, and energy into planning your dream wedding, from finding a beautiful wedding venue with the right menu and amenities for your guests to enjoy the evening. You even took the time to find the perfect wedding string lights and hang them in that cute corner where pictures will look amazing.
And when you chose your wedding invitations and discussed the number of guests, you took hours of your day to ensure everyone had a seat and was seated amongst known persons. Still, when the wedding day comes, some guests show up with a bigger number of companions creating a chaotic moment because every table is already full and carefully designed. What should you do? How can you keep it together and gracefully handle that situation?
We know it happens more often than you imagine; guests and wedding vendors can turn your dream day into a nightmare in a second. And it would help if you were prepared to face those situations because the possibility of having an awkward moment is high. Those moments come even before the big day, but luckily for you, we are wedding experts, and we know a thing or two about handling those situations.
Kids at a no kids’ wedding
This is one of the most common awkward moments you face when you tie the knot; from the moment you choose to have an adult-only wedding, you will have to face awkward moments because some guests will question you about it. There are no doubt children are lovely, but weddings aren’t the best place for them; you have adults drinking, important moments that need silence, and especially a wedding venue isn’t always kids friendly with dangerous stairs or decorations.
If a guest comes up to you asking to bring their children, you can calmly say the event isn’t planned for children to attend since the venue isn’t appropriate for kids. Then you tell them you wish they get to find someone to look after their kids that day, but if it isn’t possible, you fully understand if they cannot attend the wedding.
And in the unfortunate case of guests arriving with children to your ceremony or reception, you need to have a professional to handle the situation, such as a wedding planner or day-of coordinator. You don’t want to be stressed about the issue and discuss it with your guest. It is better to leave the matter to the professionals, and if you won’t have a planner or coordinator, our best advice is that depending on how important the guest is to you, you can wing it or ask them to leave.
Family or friends invite themselves to your wedding
Picture you are at the grocery store, and you stumble with a third cousin who knows you are getting married because you recently shared your engagement photos on social media. After congratulating you and asking about the wedding details, that person proceeds to invite themselves by saying well, and I’ll be expecting my invitation soon. Instant panic, right? How can you clarify this matter without sounding rude?
First, keep it cool; tell this person you understand how exciting weddings are, but you have a limited number of guests, and the list is already closed. You can thank the person for being so nice about your engagement photos and perhaps plan a get-together once you have the wedding plans ready to catch up and spend some quality time.
The day is here, the wedding string lights are on, and you are ready to shine after saying I do on your ceremony. Then your maid of honor tells you about your aunt Jane who brought her sister-in-law and another three guests when she only had a reception pass for two. We can only imagine what comes to a couple’s mind when this situation arrives. How can you handle such misshapen?
First, you need to consider the guests you want at your wedding; if letting in the unexpected ones will disrupt the harmony you carefully created between every table, then ask those individuals politely to leave because there are no empty seats. Another option is to ask them to return after dinner to the party once the seating arrangements go to the second plan. If you have a relaxed wedding without sitting charts, you can always let it go if the unexpected guests are ok for you.
Music, ever-flowing drinks, shots, champagne, and skipping dinner might be some reasons why a guest could blackout or get to exciting at your reception. Nevertheless, the situation is awkward, even if it is your best friend or uncle Johnny. Something must be done, especially if the drunk guest begins to create awkward situations for the rest of the wedding attendees.
Again, if you have a professional to handle the situation, let that person do it. If not, you can designate someone to care for it, such as your dad, brother, or good friend. The best you can do is send that person home safely in a cab. Prevention can also be of great help; for example, if you are concerned about someone who always gets tipsy, you can talk to your bartender and waiters to keep the drinks slow and cut them when necessary.
The little ones won’t cooperate at the processional
It’s funny to see those cute videos of a flower girl crying at the altar and throwing the petals with rage, or how about the ring bearer who falls asleep on the bride’s dress train. But when that happens on your wedding day, you won’t be laughing, and you will probably panic if you don’t have kids of your own and have no idea what’s happening as the little one cries its eyes out.
And this is one of those situations where you don’t have much to do, and you can’t force a child to walk down the aisle smiling. The best way to go is to ask their parents to stay with them and if at some point they calm and want to join the ceremony do it, if not well there’s nothing else you can do, only remember this is one of those things guests don’t care about just like these 8 things guests dgaffa.
The wrong song plays
You are ready to make your big entrance, and you hear a song you didn’t request, but everyone is cheering and up their seats, waiting for you to enter the reception venue; what should you do? Our advice is to come in with great energy because only you know the song isn’t right, so your guests won’t even notice the mistake. The same goes for your first dance; if your DJ doesn’t play the song you requested, you can dance it and ask for the right one afterward.
This situation is preventable if you have a talk with your wedding DJ and deliver a written list of the songs you want for key moments. Having a wedding planner or coordinator will also save you from these awkward moments because they know what song should come up, and they’ll fix any issue. You can also designate your maid of honor or best man to oversee this matter.
As you see, many moments might go wrong during your wedding, but there are always ways to solve it, or you can let it go and enjoy one of the best days of your life without stressing about every little detail being perfect. Hiring professional wedding vendors will also save you from awkward situations.